I often get emails from wives who ask me to advice on how to get their husband’s love back in their marriage. Usually with a bit of prompting, I can get them to tell me that specifically, they really fear their husbands are no longer “in love” with them. This is usually just a feeling or suspicion that they have. Sometimes, a husband has come right out and told the wife he no longer loves her, but often, this is not the case (or this happens in anger, so it really isn’t valid.) More often than not, the wife has, (typically for a quite a while now), felt a distance growing, or has noticed that her her husband shows less emotion, detaches himself from her, shows less and less affection, or spends less quality time with her or on the marriage.

Although I will go over some things that you can do to get the love back, I first want to say that, at least in my opinion, I doubt it’s really true that your husband doesn’t love you anymore. Love between a married couple is not something that typically just disappears or dies all together. Often, what has really happened is that close bond and intimacy shared between husband and wife has started to wane. The stresses of day to day life in our society can begin to take their toll. The loving gestures and spontaneous laughter that used to define your marriage become less and less frequent. The positive feelings and fun that you used to have becomes a distant memory.

So, it’s not that your husband doesn’t love you anymore, it’s that your marriage has become devoid of the gestures and occurrences that make you feel loved. The light hearted, yet intense atmosphere that people generally enjoy when they are first “in love” can certainly wane over time. But, there are ways to get it back. With a bit of work and having a working plan, you can return to a place where you have no doubt your husband loves you. So, let’s get to it. Read more »

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